My good man, Rufus, taught me that I was a member of a pack. In his eyes we all had our jobs and roles to adhere to and somehow his expectations raised the bar. He was happiest when his pack was all together, everyone was happy and preferably paying attention to him. Our pack looks to each for affirmation, affection, love and belonging. These are basics and at most times, as a pack, we provide all of these things without even realizing it. Rushing out the door was slowed by him. Just one more pet and kiss on the head. Walking in the door, anticipating his huge grinning face and the greeting of his extremely short energetic tail would inevitably put a smile on my own face. Rufus was there always; underfoot, shadowing, “helping”, guarding. The doorbell. That anticipation of “Who’s next?” Like a bullet, straight to it, taking everything in his path out. If he wanted it then he was fast, if not, then painfully slow. I am so grateful for all of the joy, laughs and love he gave us. We have lost a member of our pack who taught us a little bit more than we expected about the joy of slowing down for hugs and kisses and speeding up for the excitement of the adventures to come. Goodbye to our good man Rufus.
Hot Dog
Here’s another story from the Nashville to Colorado move. Since I dropped a teaser in the last entry I thought that I would go ahead and share it. It actually all began during the Chicago to Nashville move. On Move In day we under estimated the effect of the Tennessee heat and humidity on our manly bull dog. With all of the doors open and the movers bringing everything into the house I had the girls outside with Rufus so he wouldn’t trip anyone. He is amazing at that. My plan went south very quickly. The extreme panting began, his tongue turned purple he lost the ability to walk and was vomiting. No! This is not happening. Was our beloved weird dog going to die on our first day in our new town? Welcome home!! We moved him into the laundry room where he could stretch out on the cool tile. I put ice cubes in his ears, on his gums and all over his back. The movers were knocking on the door. “Maam , where do you want this table”. Just put it in the basement was the answer to every question. You can imagine how that ended. Yes. Full basement. Finally, after about 45 minutes he’s breathing slowed, his eyes brightened and we saw him coming back. It was over. He was going to live. After that we were so careful not to let it happen again. So when Move Out day came on a hot summer day 2 years later I put him in daycare while the movers were loading the truck. At about noon the phone rang and Rufus had overheated. What? How? It’s in his notes. He can’t be outside in this weather. So as my husband went to close on the house in CO I raced to meet the pet day care manager at the Emergency Pet Hospital. I ran in the door and straight up to the receptionist asking if Rufus was there yet. She just frowned and pointed at the floor. There he was foaming at the mouth, flat on the floor barely breathing. They whisked him away into the back rooms where I was not allowed. The woman who brought him in sheepishly looked and me and said he was only outside playing with the other dogs for about 20 minutes. I just looked at her with a bewildered gaze. An active 20 minutes outside for a short snout breed in TN summer heat is a very bad idea. Time crawled on and eventually the vet came out and told me that they had sedated him and put him on a breathing tube trying to get his body temperature down. I will skip all of the details and move on to the next day (as this is a long story already) when we picked him up as we drove out of town for our two day move to Colorado. The vet rolled him out on a gurney and put him in the front seat of my little car. He was a sad sack of sand just lying there. This was it; as positive as I am about just about everything, my little buddy was going do die on the road with my sweet girls as witnesses. They said just keep him out the heat and don’t let him get stressed. Well, how hard could that be? We made it through the first day in 104 heat, making bathing room stops along the way as he staggered like a drunk man to the closest tree, barely able to lift his leg. We rolled into a pet friendly hotel at about 10 pm thinking we could rest and recharge. First day down just one to go before 5 days in a hotel. Small mission accomplished. My husband went to check out the rooms and check us in. The only two rooms available were on the second floor and the AC had not been turned on yet so I needed to wait in the comfortable car with the patient while they cooled down to a reasonable temperature. Meanwhile, in the lobby, my teenage daughters were getting dating advice from a half dressed woman with a baby on her hip whom resided at that very hotel. Well, she didn’t have the baby on her hip the entire time because she left him alone in her room upstairs while she did laundry. I so badly wanted to help her but this was not in the cards that night. When the rooms were bearable my husband came out with a rolling luggage rack to transport the sad sack of sand inside. I laughed for the first time all day. Rufus was so foggy that he kept dripping off the thing as we pushed it towards the door. Then, and I am not kidding, the hotel did not have an elevator. My husband carried the sad sack of sand all the way up to the room. That’s love. If not for the dog then for me. Now, hot and cold are definitely relative terms in my book but the rooms were still hot. The furry beast panted on the floor for half the night where I joined him succumbing to the inevitable knowledge that some sort of parasite was in my not to distant future. The next day of travel was a longer version of the first but with a happy ending. Rufus survived and was soon back to his weird self and I thankfully did not get the creepy crawlies. Rufus is now thriving in the cool dry mountain air.
Cat in the Wall
I’m going to start with one of my most recent moving experiences. I always wish for an uneventful move, that’s the best kind, this was not that. Franklin, TN to Highlands Ranch, CO. After two days on the road with a sedated bull dog on the brink of death (I will back track to that at another time) and an exhausted but seriously sturdy family, we arrived at the hotel where we would be waiting for 5 days to get into our new home. I go a little overboard on pet safety, especially for cats. I get this quality very honestly from my mom. It’s a lot of “shut that door, the cat will get out”, “don’t open the carrier in the car, he may escape”. It borders on paranoia. The flack that I get from my family for this is unrelenting but I think that they are slightly entertained by it. We arrive at the hotel and the first thing I say is “Check for holes or anything Leo can get into.” They laugh and do it anyway. We’re all clear. Isabella, my daughter, discovered one tiny little opening under a sink and we agreed to just keep that door shut. Three days later my nightmare comes true. Isabella runs in. “Leo is inside the wall!” The bathroom door was left open and he squeezed himself into that hole and couldn’t get out. He’s made his way behind the shower stall, into the raw space of the hotel, and is now trying to get out of the 2 inch opening of a pocket door on the other side. Pawing and meowing, trying to get his 4 inch face through that small opening. He clearly wants out. It’s that moment when you realize you’ve made a horrible mistake that will not go unnoticed by others. I mean for him, not me.The girls run to get the hotel manager. They’re out the door when I realize I’m only half dressed. Bra and pants, that’s it. I scream, they run back in giggling with a shirt. Hmmmm. Makes me wonder just a bit. They come back with the manager, Angela and maintenance manager, Gary. We can all hear Leo meowing desperately. We go through all of the different scenarios. Should we take the sink off? Can we get the pocket door off the track? Can we lure the cat back out the way he went in? No. None of those work. Finally, Gary removes the trim around the pocket door in hopes that it will make that 2 inch opening wide enough. Not big enough. He leaves and comes back with a metal saw. He cuts the door off the hinges and pulls it down. It sounded like a jack hammer tearing up a street but it worked. That opening was now big enough but there is silence. No more meowing. My stomach flips. Most cats would have retreated into the guts of the hotel for 3 days but this cat is particularly social and does not love alone time. So we all start our coochie cooing sounds, which I quickly discovered are different for everyone. I’m doing a little sing songy bit….”Leoooo , Coooome cuuuuddle with Maaaama”. Angela, the manager, is making a hissing snake sound. Not kidding. I think she’s a dog person. I look at her… she got the message. After about 5 minutes Leo emerges all covered in dust and insulation. It was Christmas in July. We’re in our new house now and he’s still imprisoned in a bedroom. I think what we all learned here is that Mom was right.
Here I go!
Hey there. I’m Anne Kilpatrick Kiely. I’m excited to begin my blog. I have moved 24 times in my life, or at least something close to that. I have recently moved to my 9th state. They happened at all stages of my life: as a child, young adult, single, with roommates, married, with babies, toddlers and teens. I have come to the realization that all of these move are the sum of my parts. There have been hysterical, pee in your pants moments, NO!!! That did not just happen moments and crying, please let this be over moments. Some moves were by choice and some were for survival. I hope that you enjoy my tales. I think it’s time to share.
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